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Have you noticed it, too – that growing cultural dismissal of sensitivity in certain circles? The subtle (or not-so-subtle) eye-rolling when someone expresses concern for others’ feelings? Or the pride some find in describing themselves as “brutally honest?”

Compassion has become suspect. Tenderness has become something to hide rather than cultivate.

What might be happening beneath this cultural shift? Could it be that dismissing emotions feels safer than experiencing them? Perhaps those most armored against emotional awareness are actually carrying the most unacknowledged pain.

This pattern shows up in disturbing ways: the rise of misogyny, the increased emphasis on stoicism, and the pride some take in remaining unmoved by suffering. Perhaps feminine traits like nurturing and emotional awareness feel threatening when you’ve been taught to suppress these qualities in yourself.

We see it in systems that value productivity over well-being, extraction over sustainability, and control over collaboration.

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Understanding the Underlying Fear

Could we be witnessing a collective flight from vulnerability? And if so, might what appears to be strength actually be creating more disconnection and making it harder to face our real challenges together?

Does this mean that we should just let ourselves be emotionally hijacked by every feeling that comes along? Of course not. There’s a world of difference between emotional reactivity and emotional intelligence, between drowning in feelings and being informed by them, and between empathic overwhelm and empathic wisdom.

The most truly powerful people I know – the ones making actual positive change in the world – aren’t the ones who’ve learned not to engage with feelings; they’re the ones who’ve learned to feel everything without being controlled by those feelings. They’ve developed the courage to stay present with discomfort – both their own and others’. They’ve built emotional muscles, not emotional armor.

Responding with Wisdom

So how do we respond to this cultural devaluing of empathy? First, consider the possibility that when someone dismisses sensitivity or compassion, they might be revealing more about their relationship with their own emotions than offering a valid critique of yours.

Second, question the message that your sensitivity is a weakness. Your ability to feel deeply, to notice nuance, to sense what others miss – could these actually be strengths rather than liabilities? They might need refinement and boundaries, but perhaps they don’t need erasure.

Third, explore what it might look like to model a different kind of strength – one that includes both boundaries and compassion, both discernment and care, both standing firm and remaining open. This isn’t about being a doormat or absorbing everyone’s pain. It’s about showing what integrated empathy looks like.

Your Path Forward

The world doesn’t need fewer empaths; it needs more emotionally mature ones. It doesn’t need less sensitivity; it needs sensitivity paired with resilience. It doesn’t need us to toughen up; it needs us to wise up about how we handle our precious capacity to feel.

Because here’s the truth: Empathy isn’t just some nice-to-have quality for interpersonal relationships; it’s the foundation for our survival as a species. Our ability to sense others’ needs, care about impacts beyond our immediate experience, feel connected to something larger than ourselves – these capacities will determine whether we can navigate our time’s complex challenges.

So, while some might reject the value of sensitivity, your path as an empath is different. Your sacred work isn’t to become less empathic; it’s to become more skillful with the gift you already have.

Let the cultural pendulum swing where it may, along with all the other things beyond your individual control. You’re playing a longer game.