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A New Paradigm for Long-term Healthy Lifestyle Management

by Gina Pickersgill(more info)

listed in weight loss, originally published in issue 165 - December 2009

"The best laid schemes o' mice an' men / Gang aft agley",[1] according to old wisdom, but a shift in perception has now found a way to materialize all we ever wanted; from The Secret to What the Bleep, people are manifesting as easily as cooking an egg. So if all this manifesting is going on, why aren't people manifesting slimmer bodies, firmer thighs, and nice tight butts? How come we still don't have it licked when it comes to manifesting weight loss?

The problem with the new thinking trend is that people believe that if they only think about being thin, it will just happen on its own accord without having to take any action. But the true meaning of the message of The Secret is to notice when you are being prompted to take action, and then believe that taking that action will get you what want, and then take action to achieve it. Now we have heard for years the advice that only we have the power to take action and that no-one else is going to do it for us. So what's new?
The idea that the answers come from within and not some external adviser/expert is probably the single most important fact that so-called experts fail to point out. Although science is confirming what may have started out as an intuition, there are still plenty of things to discover about what the unconscious part of our brains can muster up in the way of support for our health and well being.

So what are the factors that allow us to pay attention to noticing what we can do to support our own health?

When it comes to losing weight we know that we should be reducing our calories and increasing our energy expenditure. But the equation often gets mislaid, and we forget to recognize where the indices of calories in and calories out really exist. We are all familiar with counting calories and even more so with always starting a diet tomorrow, next week or 'when I get back from holiday'. But the real moments that count when monitoring our input/output is now.

Being in the here and now and noticing what we are doing in the moment is the most powerful place from which to make choices about lifestyle habits. Not tomorrow, not next week; just now. Take for example the person who says "I am going on a diet tomorrow"; they will typically stuff their face because they know tomorrow will be the end of free choice, food and all earthly pleasures, until they get down to that elusive size - then they can go back to being 'normal'. The tyranny of yoyo dieting has been well documented, and is widely accepted that it is better, healthier and safer to avoid going on a weight reducing diet, unless you really are convinced that you have got your lifestyle habits sorted once and for all.

The harsh truth is that many people who start a diet don't really believe they have the ability to see it through to the end. The initially large amounts of enthusiasm, determination and, yes - dare I say it - courage, end up dwindling away to apathy, disappointment and despair and eventually, in extreme cases, gastric band surgery. Branded as having 'no willpower', they are destined to a life of either serial failure or living in pain and discomfort from the effects of surgery.

Well, I find it hard to sit back and let people suffer that way. So I have developed a program that I believe will change the way people think about their choices and help them maintain a happier balanced idea of what is best for them to do when it comes to managing their 'weight issues'. The reason why weight is an issue is precisely for the reasons I have stated above. My program is designed to eliminate defective thinking and help people be who they want to be around food and exercise, without having to punish or starve themselves.

Today I will share with you some of the personal insights I have gained by following the program and listening to the audio series available at my website.

When I first created the audio series, I tried to do it logically and using my 'thinking' brain, but then I got the idea to re-write it all over again, only this time from a different place: Yes, I went into a hypnotic trance and wrote each 15 minute session with a specific focus in mind. The program sounded perfect and I recorded it in a studio and began to listen on a daily basis for 15 minutes each day. Then something strange began to happen. My dreams would begin to offer me solutions as to what I personally needed to do to feel healthier. One of the first that came up was the idea that I should drink 6 beautiful chilled glasses of water a day. But the way in which the message came was pure genius.

An image of a waitress with a tray was shown to me, but instead of her serving 6 beautiful glasses of chilled water to my table, she was serving it to the people on the next table. When I woke up I realized it was because my unconscious remembered that I enjoyed the film When Harry met Sally where she fakes an orgasm in the restaurant and the older lady sitting at the next table says "I'll have what she's having". And so the dream was suggesting that in order to make drinking water desirable, and therefore easy to do, I had to make it 'sexy' by associating it with the scene in the movie.

Which leads me nicely into one of the insights I feel is very important - and that is to make something you need something you want. The dream had given me a way to do this, so that on waking, I could mimic the 'desire' factor and serve myself water in a beautiful glass instead of out of a plastic bottle or just from a tap. So making a new behaviour pleasurable will result in make it easier to do, rather than having to force yourself, you actually look forward to drinking water.

So re-learning your behaviours over time will ensure that weight is no longer an issue because you will just naturally begin to do the things that lead to a natural healthy weight for you. And hopefully the struggle to lose weight will no longer exist.


1. John Steinbeck took the title of his 1937 novel Of Mice and Men from a line contained in the second-to-last stanza: "The best laid schemes o' mice an' men / Gang aft agley" (often paraphrased in English as "The best-laid plans of mice and men / Go oft awry").

Further Information

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About Gina Pickersgill

Gina is a transpersonal coach who brings multimedia to her practice.  She created an authoritative eMagazine on NLP and Healing, based on The Healing Pool, a virtual sanctuary she owns in Second Life as her avatar 'Nina Lancaster'.

An NLP Master Practitioner and Certified Society of NLP Trainer, Gina assisted co-creator of NLP Richard Bandler on their London NLP, seminars from 2001-5.  Originally training as a fitness instructor specializing in fitness for the fuller figure, she gained a degree in Sports and Exercise Studies in 1999 and introduced the concept of Lifestyle Coaching to Virgin Active Health Clubs. She is a published holistic article writer and regular contributor to NLPLife Training Newsletter. Gina is now focused on working towards a new paradigm of delivering NLP training to a virtual world audience via various forms of multimedia platforms in partnership with sponsors and organizations.

Gina is passionate about raising awareness of virtual worlds, their potential for training change and personal development, where they will have the best benefit to a global audience, as well as to those who need more traditional methods of learning such as books, CDs, audio and one to one coaching.

Gina may be contacted via Tel: 07932 958 262;  Havening Techniques

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