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by Dave Markowitz(more info)

listed in mind matters, originally published in issue 182 - May 2011

How many of you feel lethargic, unmotivated or just plain bored more often than not? It might surprise you to know that these feelings aren't your own! Intrigued? 

The mind and body are intimately connected; our thoughts affect our body's reactions. If you have doubts about this, think about what happens when you see an emotive scene in a movie. You interpret the images as sad, based on your prior experiences. Your eyes begin to tear. If that persists, your nose may begin to run. If that persists, your gut may become 'upset'. And all of this is based on an unconscious reaction to something that's not even real! It's an image projected on a screen portrayed by actors who are pretending to be someone else that may not even exist!

Problems often occur when we have numerous sad occurrences - real, or imagined like when watching a movie - and are not given the space to feel our feelings. The more we repress our sadness, the more our energy stagnates, and the more likely we are to become sadder and sadder. What's typically diagnosed as depression is not just from having extreme sadness; more often it is the end result of not feeling the feelings of sadness. We all have sadness; it's nothing to be ashamed of. Likewise, purging sadness is a natural method of healing. You know you feel better after a good cry, but how often do we allow ourselves to do so?

The allopathic minded may ask, "What about altered brain chemistry?" What about it? It's a symptom, not a cause. Something had to cause the levels of dopamine, for example, to deplete. It doesn't just suddenly happen. Anti-depressants - the most commonly prescribed medication in typical healthcare for diagnosed cases of depression - only work as long as the person is using them, and by work, we mean they aid people in getting through the day. If the client stops taking the prescription medication, the problem returns; so by definition, they do not cure. They cover up rather than uncover. No one I've met who is on an anti-depressant for any amount of time has the emotional capacity to really feel their sadness, and few if any can feel any joy. It's the middle road too often travelled. It's a life of quiet desperation and only because we're not taught what to do/be to live to the fullest.

If you feel you need an anti-depressant, then go for it. Just know that by design, it will temporarily alleviate symptoms, but not address the root cause. Not bad, but not great either. Readers of this magazine want greatness, obviously. So it's important to know what's true on the deeper, causal layers beyond that which is visible, tangible, etc. and work with it.

It Isn't Just What You Think
As a medical intuitive, I'm often asked about the underlying, lesser-known causes of pain and illness, because not all is as it seems. Medical intuitives can sense what's going on emotionally, spiritually, energetically, mentally, and psychologically in others. We can even tell if the issues are the client's or if the client is picking up on and actually absorbing the energy of other people! Why is this important? Because knowing these intangibles and directly working with them is often the differences between lethargy and vivacity, pain and illness, and depression and joy.

Beyond the emotional factors affecting health, i.e. sadness mentioned above, there are perceived mental, cultural, and societal factors - ways of being that we are taught that we seldom question. For example, parents quite understandably feel responsible for their children. This I believe to be a good thing, especially when the child is young, but what about a woman who has yet to let go of her sense of responsibility for daughter in her 40s? Can either of them grow to their maximum potential? Are either of them healthy?

The mother rid herself of forty years of what she was calling sciatica in just one session because I shared with her what my reading showed me - that she was holding too much responsibility for her daughter. It's great to care for others, and it's great to be cared for. But when the lines blur between care and responsibility, we don't allow the other person to grow. Metaphysically speaking, no one is responsible for the soul of another person. When the mother heard and integrated this information, the pain vanished by 80% in one session, and she experienced 100% pain reduction the next day.

Experience vs. Knowledge
We all need to learn our own lessons. Indeed, how many times did your well-meaning mother tell you not to play with scissors? Until you actually did and cut yourself, you didn't know what she meant. You had no frame of reference; you had to learn it yourself. Being ir-response-able with responsibility is not healthy - for anyone! Parents at their heart of hearts want the best for their children, but the children - no matter what their emotional or chronological age - have to learn to do things on their own. Learning through experience is a much better teacher than verbally transferred knowledge.

How does this Relate to Lethargy and Depression that's not Ours?

Read on!

This sense of learned responsibility goes much deeper. There are many who knowingly or unknowingly have extreme empathic and/or intuitive abilities. This is a manifestation of our innate interconnectedness. It is what allows us to feel what's happening in another person. Aye, there's the rub: ALL of us are intuitive to some degree and all of us are affected by others.

Example: Have you ever heard of a contact buzz? That's when you enter a bar, do not drink, and still feel drunk upon exiting. Your energy is merging with that of those around you!

Some of us are so empathic that we can pick up on and actually take on others' energetic signatures beyond a temporary alcoholic state. This is obviously unhealthy for all. The empathic one is suddenly burdened with what's not really theirs, and the seemingly lightened one cannot experience her own lessons and healing. Because the empathic can feel what's going on with others, we need to know what to do to prevent the transfer and healing what isn't ours - holistically.

What I'm seeing more often in my practice is a client's symptoms being caused by their own unquestioned sense of responsibility. Meaning that not only can my clients feel others' grief, they have embodied it. Then they wonder why they're lethargic or suffering their own grief-related physical manifestations (i.e. respiratory, skin, and large intestine problems, and so-called sinus headaches) when there's little grief in their own lives! Seriously, how can they not be tired and/or ill when carrying other people's burdens?!?!?!

When this is the case, no matter what you may have tried on the physical or even energetic levels to rid yourself of lethargy, depression, and more, you've still got it! This is when people call me! I teach them how to purge the grief that's there and also how to stop it from entering their bodies in the first place.

A great analogy is the Gulf oil spill. The waters could be cleaned up but the source - the broken rig - had to be fixed for permanent healing. We have to both pull out the weeds and plant new seeds! Enough analogies? I could go on!

It's a matter of being response-able with response-ability.


  1. Marc Oromaner said..

    Great article Dave!

  2. Dave said..

    Thanks, Marc!!

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Dave Markowitz is a two-time best-selling author, intuitive healing facilitator and guide for Empaths and Highly Sensitive Persons. His work has been endorsed by Shirley MacLaine, Lynn Andrews, Lee Harris, Dannion and Kathryn Brinkley, Karen McPhee, Dr. Meg Blackburn Losey and more. He’s shared the lecture bill with Deepak Chopra and Gary Null and has worked with thousands of empaths and highly sensitive persons (HSPs) since his “empathic awakening” in 2012. To find out more about Dave, check out

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